Becky,
I want to thank you again for your help last year. I couldn’t believe how hard it was to get through that divorce. I wouldn’t wish it on my worst enemy. Your counsel was invaluable! If you ever need a good quote for your website or a personal recommendation for a potential client, please don’t hesitate to ask.
So, I took him up on it….
… and this is what he had to say:
Prior to calling Becky, our biggest concern was simple: How do we get divorced? It was uncharted territory. We hired a lawyer and immediately it became clear to me that was a mistake. The lawyer drove a wedge between us, and that looked like a big “lose” for the kids. Where it was critical to come closer together and develop a long-term strategy for successful co-parenting, the lawyer made it clear that it was all about “winning” or “taking.”
Our biggest concern was how do we do this to minimize the impact on the kids. Everything we did with Becky lined up to achieve this goal. Becky’s counseling brought us closer together as a couple, allowed us to de-escalate some heated feelings, gave us boundaries we could live with, encouraged us to recognize when we were being unreasonable and perhaps unrealistic.
Because of her experience Becky was able to clearly see a roadmap for success that might not be visible to a couple in the middle of the pain of divorce. Honestly, she felt like a guide pulling us through a dark jungle in the middle of a thunderstorm at night. We had no idea where we were going. It may sound a bit over the top but she gently (and sometimes not so gently, thank you) brought us to a place where we went from turmoil to a family at peace.
I can’t imagine the monumental mistake it would have been to have used a divorce lawyer! Working with Becky I always felt like she had the best interest of our kids and our family at heart. She brought us together.
We saved thousands of dollars in the process of building collaboration, a solid co-parenting structure, and ensuring a rock solid parental foundation for our kids. Not bad.
I believe that Becky’s corporate experience allows her to be forthright and candid when dealing with her clients. I felt like she respected us enough to speak directly and honestly instead of talking around a subject and perhaps enabling our worst behaviors. She listened to both sides and sought collaboration. When there were times when that was not achievable, she was not hesitant to make clear what the right path was. We felt Becky was not just a counselor but a leader.
Not only would I recommend her to others, I have. There are several reasons for this.
- First, she really knows her stuff — knows where to lead a couple. I trust her judgment, and this is extraordinarily important during this difficult time in life.
- Second, she has a unique ability to see both sides and communicate a collaborative plan for moving forward. She has a very effective communication style.
- Third, she is direct. There is virtually no “how does this make you feel” type therapy going on where you as the couple are trying to guess what you are supposed to be doing, what you’re supposed to think, what fork in the road you’re supposed to take.
- And above all, if you have kids, she puts the kids first. She works through your differences as a couple so you are able to successfully come together as committed, loving, child focused co-parents.